I think one of the most annoying things in life is indecision.
That yucky feeling of not knowing what to do exactly, where you’re gonna go, how you’re going to handle it, what’s going to happen…
You sit down, telling yourself that today and right now you’re going to come up with a solution and find your big decision. You focus, try to forget everything and think clearly, you push yourself into the sea of little details and circumstances.
And then?
Nothing, you simply drown…
The sea becomes an ocean and the ocean becomes a galaxy of probabilities, ideas and what-ifs. Your mind starts racing trying to order all these thoughts, trying to make its way through them all, adding here, multiplying there, subtracting sometimes, dividing into more and more endless factors and possibilities.
In the end you get lost all over again and all this is added to your indecision.
As if what you had wasn’t enough, now it’s bigger and now it comes with a greater load of stress and instability.
You miss those easy decisions where you just put everything in front of you, make your pick and just live your life happily ever after.
You wonder why all decisions can’t be like that. And then you try to follow the same path, hoping it will work, only to find that there are a lot of missing facts on your table.
Different people have different approaches and solutions for getting out of these indecision gridlocks.
I personally tend to try to get as much detail as possible and put as many facts as possible on the table, then I try to put those facts together and build different scenarios for different decisions and I pursue them in my mind as much as I can before deciding.
My choice in the end has always come down to the option with the least risk.
Although I’m realizing more and more that it’s not always the best thing to do, so I’ll most probably be taking more risk with my future decisions.
I hate that feeling! And it keeps coming to me 🙁
Just like you said, it’s our fear of taking the risk that keeps us hesitating, and when people hesitate, they feel lost in the middle of nowhere!
I’m the most indecisive person you could meet. I can never decide anything… not even the silly stuff like what shoes to buy or where to have lunch today, so I’m horrible with the big decisions… If you manage to find a cure please do share 🙂
LOL! Roba, my dear, “where to have lunch today” is one of our MAJOR problems, with “our”, I’m referring to MMM & I 😀
lol…
Yeah, choosing where to eat has always been a major problem for us 🙂
We waste more time choosing where to eat than it takes for us to actually go there and eat.
Anyway, if life only put us into situations where we stood undecided on where we should go eat, or which shirt to buy, or which cd to pop into the car, or which movie to rent, it’d be heaven, lol.
But unfortunately it isn’t. There are major life decisions that we need to take sometimes, and that’s when indecision truly and thoroughly sucks.
When we know we have to take a decision that will change our lives forever, but we don’t know which one.
well, i found that harder now than before, it has something to do with the age, and responsibilities i believe, i started to worry more, and think more, and knowing that my decision will affect other people who are part of my life now,
and to tell the truth in my case i worry and worry then life gives me things easily than i thought.
but the food thing! no worries mate ;):P
Exactly orangina. As we grow older our decisions do grow bigger and start affecting more and more people around us, and we end up thinking not only about what we want for ourselves but what is best for all, and that complicates it.
Just like you, I’ve been lucky up to now, as life has given me things the easy way. But I’m not sure it’s always the best thing to let life take the decision for us, because you never know when that decision will be one that we don’t like or what we could be missing by not taking our own decisions.
As for the food thing, well I guess everyone has that, it’s not really life shattering 🙂