It’s amazing how easy it is to give people the right advice, and how hard it is to follow that advice yourself.
How many times do you find yourself giving people advice you wish in the bottom of your heart that you could follow but just don’t have enough courage to.
If we believe so much in the advice that we give and are so certain that it is the road to ultimate happiness, how come we can’t force ourselves to go down that road too?!
You tell them to go after their dreams, yet you can’t.
You tell them not to complicate life, keep it simple and enjoy it when your life is the complete opposite.
You tell them that life is too short to waste, yet you manage to keep on wasting yours.
You tell them that they don’t have to keep on taking crap from the people around them yet you’ve grown accustomed to it.
It’s not hypocrisy; it’s just lack of courage maybe.
We always tell ourselves; well with us it’s different, it’s too complicated, we have so much at risk, we just can’t get up and change everything in our lives!
But yet we always believe that others can and still have the chance to do it.
In reality, there really is no difference. Whatever considerations and limitations life has thrown on us, it has most probably also thrown on almost everyone else.
So, why do we think it will work for others and not for us?
It can work for us too if we give it a try.
In the end, it’s only the people who realize that and take the chance who really enjoy the lives worth living.
omg that is so true with me :S ppl always tell me i’m good with giving advice but i never seem to work it out for myself :S:S
Great piece MMM. Just like Mona here, I believe it’s easier to guide people and give them advice than help ourselves.
I guess our emotional involvement on the personal level is the reason why we find it difficult to take decisions or look at a certain situation from a different, less complicated perspective!
That is so true MMM:) i love your posts:)
But i believe that it is not the lack of courage that stops us from following our own advice..it is lack of encouragemnent;) because we need someone to give us the advice..we need a SUPPOTER..an advice can’t work by itself but you need a motivation and support:):)
that’s why it works with others, cuz we are their supporters:)
Well, maybe the lack of support plays a role in it, but not everyone we give advice to actually takes it and does something with it even though we support them.
I think that the biggest factor is something in the person and their nature. Some people are willing to take the risk and to just jump onto the edge and take the dive and some others hide behind the wall of so-called rationality and stand still.
I agree with Eman that our personal involvement makes us look at it from a more complicated perspective which is part of the problem. Why should we complicate it more just because we’re involved?
Is it because we’re too self centered and care more about ourselves than the people we’re giving the advice to?